Cindy Gambino: wants to stop her former husband being buried with their children. Photo: Rebecca Hallas
The mother of three children drowned in an act of revenge is attempting to stop their killer-father from being buried beside his victims.
Cindy Gambino has contacted her solicitor to begin a legal challenge to prevent Robert Farquharson, who was convicted of killing their children Jai, Tyler and Bailey, from being buried beside her children.
The former couple bought plots adjoining the children's grave in the days following the boys' deaths. Farquharson maintained he had a coughing fit that caused him to lose control of his car, causing it to plunge into a dam near Winchelsea on Father's Day in 2005.
Killer: brothers Jai, Bailey, and Tyler Farquharson. Photo: Supplied
"By killing them, he has forfeited the right to be a father to his children – that is the way I see it," Ms Gambino said.
Ms Gambino spoke at the launch of On Father's Day, a book about her "shattering" ordeal. She said she bought the plot and Farquharson bought the adjoining plot 10 days later. At that time, she did not suspect he had deliberately drowned their children.
"I want to be buried with [my husband] Steve, next to my children and not next to him," she said.
Robert Farquharson: killed his three sons. Photo: John Woudstra
Farquharson's name has also been partially scrubbed from the children's headstone at the Winchelsea cemetery. Ms Gambino said she did not know who had attempted to remove his name but she had resisted calls from his family to restore it.
In 2010 a Victorian Supreme Court jury found Farquharson guilty of murdering Jai, 10, Tyler, 7, and Bailey, 2, to get back at his former wife. Farquharson lost his application to appeal his sentence in the High Court in August 2013.
On Father's Day, by author Megan Norris, was launched at the Wheeler Centre, in Melbourne, on Monday. The launch was attended by paramedics and police involved in the case.
Ms Norris said Ms Gambino had continued to be victimised after her children's deaths with some blaming her. Strangers frequently approached Ms Gambino, she said, including a supermarket encounter where a man asked: "What did you do to him to make him do that to you?"
Ms Gambino said medical professionals treating a patient with suicidal, homicidal, familicidal or revengeful feelings should be forced to tell police so police could relay the information to those at risk.
"If it is important enough for a counsellor to note it in their file, then it is good enough to tell their doctor, and that doctor to tell police and the wife or ex-wife so they can take steps to reduce the risks," Ms Gambino said.
"I would have done everything to protect my children if I had known."
Danny Blay, executive officer of the No to Violence – Male Family Violence Prevention Association, said many medical professionals were unable to identify when a patient had those feelings. He said such professionals were already able to tell police about a risky patient but they rarely did; if they were concerned about a patient he said they should seek a second opinion.
Victoria Police Assistant Commissioner Stephen Fontana said family violence accounted for 40 per cent of crimes against a person. He said police were getting better at identifying and referring victims and perpetrators of family violence.