"JUST remember I love you mum."
Christine Onder had no idea those heartfelt words would be the last she would hear from her daughter Yasmein Irfan.
The 14-year-old was killed when the overcrowded car she was travelling in smashed into a concrete wall on Pascoe Vale Road in Coolaroo on Wednesday night.
Rumours have swirled about how six teenagers, none with a driver's licence, came to be in the stolen car, which would end three of their lives and put another three in hospital.
"When I first found out, it was like, 'why Yasmein, why? Why did you get in that car?'" Ms Onder said. "But I know I'm never going to get answers.
"You can try to be the best parent but no matter how strict you are, your child is going to rebel."
Yasmein's family remembers her as a loving girl, who wanted to be loved by others.
"She wanted to be loved by everyone, that's what I think her downfall was."
It was a desire for acceptance her mother believed led her to that packed car.
Ms Onder said Yasmein, who had only began to rebel this year by wagging school, was desperate to turn her life around and had ambitions to be a lawyer.
She said the Department of Human Services helped with those plans. "People are making out Yasmein to be a monster. She wasn't a monster. She was a beautiful girl. That's what I want people to remember her as. Her life was just beginning."
"Last week she ... said 'mum, I’m going to make you proud. I'm going to turn my life around ... you just watch'."
Early Thursday Ms Onder was woken by a knock on her door which abruptly ended those plans, leaving her without a daughter and Yasmein's brothers, Bailey, 5, and Michael, 6, without a sister they "idolised".
"Michael was woken up when the police came and he woke up his younger brother and said: 'Bailey Yasmein's dead'. But I don't think he understood."
"Last night ... Bailey turned around and said to me 'Mum, when's Yazzie coming home? When can I see Yazzie again?' I don’t know how to tell them that Yasmein’s never coming home again and they’re never going to see her again, they never are never going to cuddle her again?" Ms Onder said.
But on Friday, Ms Onder and her partner, Michael Goldburg, were at a mosque in Melbourne’s north organising plans for her funeral.
Ms Onder didn't exaggerate the memory of her daughter. She was quick to say she was a child, a 14-year-old, with all the faults of adolescence.
"She was shifty, I'll admit that, like any other teenager. But towards the end, Yasmein used to tell you the truth. She'd be honest with you, even if she made a mistake, and she would say 'I'm sorry mum'."
Ms Onder's sister Debra Kite urged people not to be too judgmental of Yasmein.
"I'm sure we all made one stupid mistake when we were young and I know I wouldn’t like to be judged on that for the rest of my life," Ms Kite said.
But Ms Onder had a message to the parents of other teenagers: "Watch their kids. I don't want a parent to go through what I'm going through now. I never thought I would be burying my child before me. I thought I'd watch Yasmein grow into a beautiful woman, get married, have children."