Woman meets man online. Woman falls for man. When they eventually meet, man turns out to look nothing like his profile picture.
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It's not exactly a tale as old as time, but when it comes to 21st century dating it's a common one. What's more, it's also not the worst thing which can happen.
While it doesn't bode well for any single Canberrans out there, it did provide plenty of content for Julie Okely and Simone Hamilton's book Tales of Tinderella.
"I've been single myself for about two-and-a-half years now and I just thought to myself that the clock's ticking and maybe what I need to do is get out there and date," Okely says.
"I had all these preconceived notions that I would sign up, date someone and ... I just thought I would meet my perfect guy online and mentally, emotionally that we would so get on."
That, of course, was not the case and when Okely went to meet her online 'prince charming' at a Canberra bar, he was not as he seemed online. As she describes it: "You expect to see Vin Diesel coming towards you and Monty Burns is there".
And so the first chapter for Tales of Tinderella was born. From there, Okely and Hamilton tell other true stories from friends and family - using the pseudonym of Tinderella to keep anonymity - to give a snapshot of modern dating.
After every date, Hamilton - who is also a behavioural change specialist - breaks down what can be learnt from the encounter.
"What is the point of writing a book without healing content?" Okely says.
"We need to make sure that it's a healing service, right from the emotional, the mental, the nutrition and the physical."
It's a need which Hamilton sees a lot at her practice.
"People come out of a relationship and they're struggling or their confidence is shattered or - if it's been a mutual ending - what's next?," she says.
"[Dating] has become very gamified as well. There is a rush when there is a match and it's just such a different experience because it's rapid, it's fast - you either match or you don't."
Tales of Tinderella is just the beginning. They're in talks with Screen Australia about the project and also hope to introduce workshops, podcasts and merchandise.
"I think everyone will find the human behavioural [information] and tips and guidance really useful and I think, guiding," Hamilton says.
"Some of the younger ones coming through - because they haven't lived a long life - it's all still new. Some of the older women probably have a bit more understanding of human behaviour because they have encountered so many people over their lives, but they don't understand the technology or the how-to."
- Tales of Tinderella is available at talesoftinderella.com