A lot of people I've spoken to this last week or so aren't that excited by the idea of us all coming out of lockdown. And to be honest, neither am I.
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We've enjoyed this quiet life, the moments spent at home with family, we have a new appreciation for our neighbourhoods, revelled in lazy Saturday mornings spent in bed with a paper - and buy a paper, please - a coffee made in the kitchen, with no kick-off time for the kids' sport forcing us to rush out the door before the sun is up.
Sure we've dealt with the pressures of working from home while dealing with online learning, we've missed seeing loved ones who live further afield, many of us have faced financial distress and anxiety and, for many of us who've done it all alone, a sense of loneliness that's hard to explain.
Maybe this weekend you've caught up with mates, made a booking for a big group at a pub, or booked an intimate dinner for two at your favourite restaurant.
Has your family of five gone to visit the in-laws? Have you had your hair done? Dealt with those nails? Swum laps, forgetting the previous restrictions with every stroke?
We all need to find our own way out. Find our own pathway forward, one that leads to a destination we might not even be sure about now.
But part of me is thinking I don't want to rush things, or, indeed, completely forget about the good things that lockdown has brought to my life.
Or not brought as the case may be.
Sure, the one question I want answered is "Can I go to the coast now?"
With a looming long holiday, I'm keen to escape.
And I'd like to catch up with my girlfriends, go see a movie, work up a sweat at the gym, but I've kind of been doing those things anyway.
My life is a pretty simple one. There's not much I need to do.
I'm kind of anxious that once we are allowed to, there'll be this pressure to actually jump back into life, making as big a splash as we can, and that's not really me.
There's a term for it, apparently: "pandemic flux syndrome".
Amy Cuddy, best-selling author and Harvard social psychologist, wrote an article in The Washington Post in August explaining how many people are dealing with "blunted emotions, spikes in anxiety and depression, and a desire to drastically change something about their lives".
We're stuck in a state, she suggests, where we're not sure how it's all going to end, if it will ever end, and how we might deal with the new normal.
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We're still confused by inconsistent messages, inconsistent approaches from government, no one is giving us the answers we want.
Will we be disappointed when all those things we thought we were looking forward to doing are not so wonderful when we actually get back to doing them?
"Some people feel ashamed and guilty because they think they should be feeling happy, when in fact they're sad to be losing pandemic routines that were reducing their stress and that had come to matter to them," she wrote.
If you read about The Canberra Times Lockdown Hotline that colleague Dion set up to document how readers were doing, you'd see that a lot of people felt grateful for many things.
Some started projects and hobbies they'd been putting off for years, others got to know neighbours, discovered skills they didn't know they had.
When we get back to the office grind, when our afternoons are full of co-curricular activities with the kids, when Sundays are full of chores because we didn't have time to do any during the week, when dinner is rushed, when we're expected to be places, required to be places, things will be different, again.
Cuddy suggests we look back at the past few years and use it as an opportunity to learn about how we really want to lead our lives.
What did and didn't work for you? What do you want to change? What have you been happy with?
We need to acknowledge that while it's been a period of great loss for many people, perhaps there was something to be gained from it all as well.
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