Four Raiders weddings and a footy final

"That's a hard question for me," she said, with a laugh.

"My life has been so busy. It's hard balancing the wedding and footy and my own work. It's hectic."

It's a question other Raiders' players and their wives and girlfriends are grappling with - four Raiders players are getting married post-season and, after Friday night's final against Souths at Canberra Stadium, could be facing two big days: the NRL grand final and their nuptials.

Joe Tapine and Kirsten will be married a week after the grand final, in Newcastle on October 12.

"I'm a little bit worried about Mad Monday," she said, with a laugh.

Sam Williams and Sarah Gilbert are getting married the week after. Then it's Jordan Rapana and Kelsey Kopp in November and Joey Leilua and his partner Tiana Faapoi in December.

But, first things first, in what is sure to be an electrifying final at a packed Canberra Stadium on Friday night. And the wives and girlfriends of the players are their bedrock of support.

Kirsten, whose sister is nrl.com reporter Tanisha Stanton, said Joe wasn't nervous.

"He gets really excited. He loves the pressure and he handles it really well," she said. "I get nervous. My stomach this whole week has just been butterflies,"

Monisha Lew Fatt, partner of fullback Jack Wighton, is feeling relaxed about Friday's game.

"I usually don't say anything if I have a bad feeling but this time, I have a good feeling and I've been seeing signs everywhere," she said. "Everything is all green. And I keep seeing his membership number - 303 - everywhere."

Brittney Croker, wife of Raiders co-captain Jarrod Croker, (they got married post-season, too, in 2017, on October 13), said he had a very particular routine.

"It'll be steak and pasta tonight. Eggs in the morning. A wrap. And then a sleep for two hours before the game," she said on Thursday.

Brittney was nervous and excited. "Clients keep asking me, 'Are you excited?' and I'm like, 'Stop talking about it!"," she said, with a laugh.

Monisha said before a big game, "you feel like you're walking on eggshells a lot of the time".

"One hundred per cent," said Kirsten, who always sends the same text to Joe: "Good luck, go hard, love you".

Gemmah Soliola, wife of Raiders leader Sia, was more consumed on Thursday getting cupcakes to school for their son Israel's eighth birthday.

"I'm so distracted with three kids, I have to remind myself to say something about the game to Sia," she laughed.

"He is so selfless, on his day off he's doing things for me. I said, 'I'll take the kids out this afternoon, you go to golf'."

Sia was long past pre-game superstitions. "He's distracted with the kids and that's what he likes," she said.

Sia did have some sage advice, according to Gemmah.

"I said to him, 'I'm so nervous' and he said, 'That's because you don't have any control over the outcome. We as players do'.

"But I'm sure he'll still be crapping himself when he goes out there."

And the women have their own careers to worry about, apart from footy.

Kirsten, who works at the Australian Tax Office, recently graduated from the University of Canberra in IT and commerce. Brittney is a beauty therapist.

Monisha works part-time at Defence. She and Jack have daughters Aaliyah, four, and Ariah, 17 months. She has also started a balloon styling business called A&A Balloons, after the girls' names, adding to her busy life. "Don't ask me why I started it," she said, with a laugh. "But it's going really well."

And Gemmah is studying accounting but loving more being a mum to her and Sia's kids, Israel, Alex, three, and Georgia-Jean, eight months.